Advice to Lily

Lily's mother was always on mind, whether it was good or bad thoughts. She was always thinking about what she could remember of her mother, which was not much. She had so few memories because she only was a part of the first three years of her life. Most of all, Lily constantly thought about her mother's death. She felt terribly guilty for shooting her mother when she was three. Lily also always wondered if her mother actually loved her. She was always wondering if she actually left her like T. Ray said or if he was just lying.
I believe that Lily should have tried to think of the good memories she had with her mother and stop thinking about all the bad moments. I understand the guilt that Lily was feeling from murdering her mother, but I think that Lily should have tried to forgive herself and put that time in her life behind her. She was so young and did not know what she was doing. Lily can't go through life putting herself down for an accident that happened so early in her life.
Lily was always unsure about if her mother really loved her or not because she never knew the true story. When Lily and August had a talk about her mother, Lily discovered that her mother left her and T. Ray to go to the Boatright's house. This made Lily extremely depressed because she believed that she did not love or care about her. But later on Lily learned to believe that her mother did love her in her own special way.
Lily should not have put herself through a depression over something that she could not change. She couldn't change the fact that her mother left her or that she shot her mother. I think it's a good thing that Lily decided to fogive her mother for not loving her to the fullest because everyone makes mistakes in their lives.